Friday Finds

1. Black & Gold Geometric Mirror | Zulily
2. Geometric Flower Vases | Amazon 
3. Nellam Modern Geometric Table Vases | Amazon 
4. Isometry | Orange & Yellow Modern Geometric Triangle Pattern Rug 
5. WE Furniture | Geometric Glass Nesting Coffee Tables 
6. BuLuTu Bedding Geometric Duvet Cover Sets | Amazon 
7. Lampworks Pendant Light Geometric Metal Cage 
8. Wood Geometric Wall Art | Zulily
9. Umbra Prisma Decorative Accents, Set of 6 

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Social media can make it feel like we are comparing our real life to everyone else’s highlight reel. We talk about how to protect yourself and how self-care can also include boundaries and saying no. We interview Kelly Beall, founder of the popular lifestyle blog Design Crush, on how she found a simple ritual of self-care that helped center her each day. Listen here: Play in new window | Download
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Free stuff alert! Once again Grove Collective, an awesome online destination for all kinds of green beauty products, natural cleaning products, and green home goods, is offering a set of three full-sized, awesome-smelling products from Mrs. Meyers. Use the link below to get Mrs. Meyer's hand soap, dish soap, and multi-surface spray in your choice of lilac, mint, or peony scent, along with a super-soft kitchen towel.  Get it at this link.

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Motherhood and Loss

On Thursday's I post from the Vault. This post is from November 2007

I've just had another miscarriage. This is number 5 or 6 . . . hard to keep track. It followed the usual course: late period, positive test, but low hormone levels, followed by a quiet week of me getting my hopes up, and then bleeding, cramping, confirmation, and tears.

This is my first miscarriage since adopting Jafta. I was able to carry India to term (this latest miscarriage is just another reminder of what a miracle that was). I am still devastated, but I am finding the experience very different. First of all, it's hard to grieve with two kids running around demandng your attention all day. Previously, I would spend a week or two on the couch, moping and wallowing and shaking my fist at the sky. Now, I don't really have time to think about it. It catches me off guard, especially at bedtime, and I feel the slow, sinking feeling of dread and sadness come over me. But during the day, I am distracted by playdates and board books and all things kids.

But I also think the experience of miscarriage is very different as a parent. My arms are full now. They felt so empty before. Last night, as I lay in bed singing with my two kid, I just felt the fullness of being a mom and let that be a balm for my loss. My arms are not empty. My spirit grieves, and yet my heart is full.

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Wednesday's Child: Caleb

Every Wednesday I feature a child recently highlighted by a local Wednesday's Child newscast to share the stories of children from around the country who are waiting for a family. My hope is that this can broaden exposure for the children highlighted, but also serve as a reminder that these children represent thousands of children currently in the foster-care system. Perhaps their stories will inspire you to consider opening your home to a child needing a family. For more information and to learn about other waiting children, visit AdoptUsKids.


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Being an Immigrant's Wife

What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by Jessica Hernandez. 
Photo by: Nitish Meena 

When the results were announced on election night, I cried. I cried because I was frightened, not for myself but for my brown-skinned, accented immigrant husband. The campaign season’s anti-immigrant, anti-Hispanic rhetoric rang in my ears. I was terrified of the violence I thought it might inspire. My family, all Caucasian, said I was being paranoid. “He’s legal. He’ll be fine.” 

I was dubious, because here’s the thing: nowhere on my husband’s body is there a sign that says “I’m supposed to be here.” There’s no yellow star or tattoo with his green card number. (I hope to God he’s never forced to get one). He looks like what he is: a bald Hispanic man with a goatee. But because of that, there will always be people who question his right to be here in the U.S. with his wife and his children. People who shout hate at him on street corners won’t ask for his passport card first. They won’t ask him his immigration status. They’ll just look at him and assume he doesn’t belong.

or the most part, things have been fine since the election. We make sure our taillights work and our license tabs are up to date. We never speed or run stoplights. We do everything in our power not to make him a target. But “fine” for him is never going to look like “fine” for me. Fine for him means getting followed around in stores. It means people talking louder to him because he has an accent. It means folks asking what part of Mexico he’s from. (He’s from Spain.) It means people asking to talk to someone who “speaks English” when businesses call on the phone. It means a 1,000 little headaches and prejudices that as a White person, I’d never know were a part of life for some Americans.

These are the things he faces, the silent battles he fights. But there is one thing that affects me directly, and that’s the way people react when we speak Spanish in public. While the Hispanic community here is decent sized, we don’t have a lot of connection with actual Spanish culture where we live. In fact, my husband is perhaps the only Spaniard in our county. Language is the one thing that connects him to his homeland. It’s the language of his family – the tios and abuela that my children only know over Skype and on the phone.
And that’s a problem. Because more and more, people are looking at my husband with hostility when he speaks to our bilingual children in Spanish.

This might not be the hardest thing he or others deal with. It’s a drop in the bucket for Dreamers facing deportation to countries they’ve never known. It’s a tiny thing. I know that. But it’s the hardest one for me because of the impact it has our children. Our kids are young, but they see those looks. They see them and they know what they mean. They know that where we live, Spanish is different and “other” and undesirable. So they don’t want to speak it. 

Two weeks ago, my daughter had a raging meltdown. That in itself is not unusual – she’s the kind of kid who feels things deeply. But what set this tantrum apart was its cause. She was furious at my husband for speaking Spanish to her. “I hate Spanish!” she screamed. “Why can’t you just speak English?” It broke my heart. It broke my heart that she feels like half of who she is, is unacceptable. It broke my heart that her Spanish heritage is something to be ashamed of or hide. And it broke my heart that these are the messages people give her on a daily, sometimes hourly. Sometimes those messages come without thinking – a subtle change in attitude, a raised eyebrow, a change of tone. And sometimes, as with the pardon of a sheriff convicted of illegally targeting Hispanics or the DACA repeal, those messages are clearly and intentionally given.

Even though I vote and contact my elected officials, I know can’t change the big things. I can’t force people to be okay with minorities, confront the idea of privilege, or overturn a presidential pardon. But I can do my damnedest to help my kids be proud of their Hispanic heritage. I’m awful at speaking Spanish, but I’m doing it anyhow. When we watch Little Mermaid, I switch the language so Ariel speaks the same way they do. When we sing together, we sing “Los Pollitos Dicen” as well as “The Itsy Bitsy Spider.” In words and in actions, I try to tell my children over and over how lucky they are to be bilingual and how beautiful Spanish culture is.
When the time comes to register them for school, I’ll mark them as bilingual, even though I know I’ll have to fight the rest of my life to keep them from unnecessary ESL testing. 

Most of all, I’ll keep shouting into the void that anti-immigrant rhetoric affects more than just illegal immigrants. It affects the lives of every person with an accent or more melanin in their skin, regardless of immigration status. It affects children, both Dreamers and not. And it affects me, a white lady from Republican farm country who just wants her kids to be proud of who they are.

 will do these things because my culture of origin shouldn’t be the only one that counts in our family.
It shouldn’t be the only one that counts, period. 

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