the present of presence

I'm not really making a bunch of resolutions this year. I'm starting out the year running my first half-marathon, so I'm feeling pretty proud of myself, and not looking to make more goals involving self-discipline or achievement. I am wanting to make some changes, though, and it's tricky because the changes I need to make really revolve around NOT checking things off of a list. I have an incessant need to feel a sense of achievement or completion each day. I was poking fun at this tendency of mine in yesterday's post, but in reality I know that this is an area where I need some serious growth. I can spend hours of my time trying to tick items off of my to-do list. I have a hard time relaxing. Just sitting and enjoying my children is difficult for me. After a few minutes of playing ponies or peek-a-boo, my eyes start wandering to the scattered toys or the overflowing laundry bin or the list of people I need to call. I am constantly distracted by a sense that I should be doing something important. Unfortunately in my unconscious value system, just being with my kids does not seem important enough. Cognivitely, I don't feel this way. I want to give myself permission to just sit and really "be" with my kids. Somehow I have a hard time translating that desire into my everyday behavior.

So . . . my resolve for the coming year is to figure out how to put that into practice. I want to achieve less. To get less done. To complete fewer tasks. I want to put mothering on the top of my to-do list, and I want to live in a way that reflects that priority. This priority:


  1. I am the QUEEN of doing less. I'd give you lessons, but you couldn't afford me.

  2. Good for you. My kids are 19 and just got married, 16 and 12 and just yesterday they were little bitty. Have fun with them.

  3. oh geez. i'm going to have to say "ditto" to that whole post. I would say i could of written it myself...except that you write much better than I do.
    But that hits home.
    Do less. Me too.
    Thank you.

  4. Totally identify with this one!! What challenges us more than being mothers??!!...I don't think anything! It's a journey that's for sure...great post :)

  5. I couldn't agree with you more! My husband and I are getting ready to move into our first home with our 2 boys and for the first few months we're not going to have internet while we figure out our finances. I can honestly say that I'm looking forward to not having that huge distraction so I can focus on more important things like my kids!

  6. I think we were separated at birth.


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