For me personally, I didn't mind the question, but I understand how some find it offensive. I believe it can be good information to have, and because it is collected in a way that is confidential and not shaming towards the child, I don’t see how it would cause them harm. I am sympathetic to feeling like adopted kids are “othered”, and I do feel that in some settings so I can relate to the cringe. But at the same time, I don’t feel there should be shame in a child’s adoption status, either, and a piece of anonymous paper seems benign enough to me (and maybe even useful, but then again I’m a research geek). Perhaps I am influenced by being a trans
If you were affected by the question, how did you feel about it?