Here I am during our panel. Talking about spirituality makes me thirsty. For Jesus.
First of all, this conference was 97.9% Mormon. Which was fine by me, and made my presence at the panel on faith all the more interesting. I have to say - the Mormons could teach us a thing or two about family life. I feel like every mom I talked to had this uncompromising commitment to her family, and talked about her kids with a passion that I don't hear every day. And, as these things often do, it set me to wondering why that is. I spent a good portion of Sunday
And while I'm not ready to receive a revelation from Joseph Smith (don't worry, Mom) or vote for Mit Romney (don't worry, liberal friends), I do feel like I could learn something from this culture of family closeness and community.
Another observation that got me thinking this weekend: so many of the bloggers in attendance have dealt with, or are dealing with, depression and anxiety. This was especially true among the speakers. I am certainly in the midst of it, and it really had me pondering why it was so common. I'm curious to know if it's just a reflection of our society at large, or if writers, by nature, tend to be more neurotic and melancholy. Or do we write because we are melancholy? I haven't figured it all out. But it was nice to be with women who understand, and who aren't afraid to be vocal about the heavy toll of a mood disorder.
I was also struck by how many of us have experience loss at some level. To be honest, when I first arrived, I had a little (a lot) of anxiety about being in a room full of perky, 20something scrapbooking moms decked out in floral skirts and cardigans. I started getting the familiar insecurities: I'm too cynical, I'm too morose, these women all have perfect lives and I'm a mess. But when you peel back the layers, regardless of whatever shiny exterior is presented, so many of us are dealing with CRAP. And again, is it this heaviness that compels us to write our lives out online? Or is the drama what compels others to read, in a sort of online rubberneck? Or is it just a reflection of the fact that all of us are carrying pain, and some of us just choose to publish it? Because let me tell you . . . there was a lot of pain shared.
But I think that was the beautiful thing about this weekend. Many of us had already read each others' stories. We didn't have to spend a lot of time on exposition. We knew the characters, and knew the plot - and this led to some amazing conversations with women I barely know, and yet know so well. I think Courtney wrapped this up well in this excerpt she read on Saturday:
But these [feminine] powers are the most potent when used to love other women. To support. To carry. Lift. Encourage. Serve. Fight alongside. And in my experience, this is also the hardest part about being a woman. There are forces at work designed to turn woman against woman in an effort to completely destroy the massive amount of good we can do when united. But I also know that I feel the strongest as a woman, when I am helping another woman, or being helped by another woman -- whether she is someone I know or a someone who lives across the world. I'd be smart to unceasingly search for opportunities to serve.