With my first child, he got all my attention. With my second, I was busy running after a toddler so she had to learn to be more independent. I was also way more chill. If the pacifier dropped on the ground - whatever. I didn't boil the bottles. I just knew at that point she wasn't going to die like all the things I read said she would.
Has anyone ever been the exact same parent with each child? If you've pulled that off, I'd love to hear about it in the comments. What about when your first child is several years older and doesn't require as much from you when the second one comes along? I know every kid is different and we all have to make adjustments for each one, but how drastic have those changes been for you?