Here are some things I read this week that made me think. (These are just snippets - click on the title to read the whole thing.)
A Psychologist Explains How to Revive a Dead Friendship from Cari with Science of Us
Whether you broke up with some sense of finality or just let things fade out, there’s a reason you ended things last time around — and whatever pushed you two apart may not have gone away. “Sometimes we romanticize our friendships, and maybe we forget some of the reasons why we ended [the relationship],” Levine says. “You might be going back into the same morass that you left.”
Here Are The Ages You Peak At Everything Throughout Life from Chris and Skye with Business Insider
"Aging can seem like a scary prospect, but a wealth of scientific studies have found that youth isn't all it's cracked up to be. There are plenty of cases in which human beings peak well into middle and old age. Teenagers, for instance, may have vitality on their side, but older people are generally more psychologically stable. And so it goes with several phenomena people experience as they age... Here's what you have to look forward to."
"Here is a kid who has been tube-fed for years and struggled to learn to eat suddenly needing to down bottles of the nastiest tasting substance on planet earth. It was so hard he asked for “the medicine they put in your bottom” and “can’t I just go to the hospital and get a shot“.
Yes, my friends, he was begging for suppositories and shots rather than have to swallow his antibiotic....Then finally, we found something that would work."
Why Social Media is NOT Smart for Middle School Kids: Tweens' brains are simply too immature to use social media appropriately by Victoria at Psychology Today
"Social media can cause teens to lose connection from their family and view “friends” as their foundation. Since the cognitive brain is still being formed, the need for your teen to be attached to your family is just as important now as when they were younger. Make sure that attachment is strong. While they need attachments to their friends, they need healthy family attachment more....
Spend more real non-tech time with your children. Teens who are strongly attached to their parents and family show more overall happiness and success in life. They still need us now more than ever. It is easy to detach from them, face it … teens can be annoying! Attaching to family allows them to detach from the social media drama. Your child needs to feel like they can come home and leave the drama of their social world behind for a few hours. They want you to help them say no to social media and yes to more time with the family. They are craving those moments to disconnect, so make plans and encourage this at home."
How Weird Al Yankovic Removed the Misogyny of ‘Blurred Lines’ by Adding Grammar Lessons from Jesse at Vulture
"Weird Al Yankovic’s brand of musical parody changed comedy, raising the bar for the level of accuracy expected in parody. And after 14 albums, he’s still at it. As Yankovic puts it, his most recent album Mandatory Fun was his mic drop, as it was his first No. 1 album and it dominated the internet for a week. The standout track was “Word Crimes,” his “Blurred Lines” parody that replaced all the creepiness of the Robin Thicke original and replaced it with valuable lessons about grammar."
"Who doesn’t love coming home to a nice-smelling space? A good home fragrance acts like an accessory and adds character, making your space feel extra homey. However, constantly buying candles and air fresheners can start getting expensive, and lots of them are actually polluting your home with chemicals. So how do you get a great-smelling home without resorting to unnatural and toxic scents? These 19 all-natural fragrances are super simple to make, much cheaper than buying fragrances and will actually improve the air quality in your home. From candles to diffusers, the best part about making your own air fresheners is that you can control the exact scent you want."
A few on the list to try:
- Beeswax candles: Beeswax candles give off a light honey-ish scent, and they also have a purifying effect on the air in your house. They give off negative ions when burned, which neutralizes bad ions like allergens, dust and airborne toxins. So not only are you adding good smells, you’re actually cleaning the air whenever you burn these lovely candles.
- Fruit Rind Air Freshener: Instead of just masking bad smells, use sea salt to actually get rid of them. Fill half of a citrus fruit with sea salt and set it somewhere where it can soak up all the bad odors; just make sure it’s out of reach of little fingers or furry friends. Replace the rind and salt every few days to keep the space fresh and odor free.
- Deodorizing disks: If you’re struggling to keep a diaper bucket or garbage can fresh, you need to make a batch of these little odor destroyers. They’re easy to make and work great for deodorizing closets, bathrooms or anywhere else you have an unwanted smell. And while they’re not the prettiest, they are hardworking, and sometimes that’s exactly what you need to fight bad odors.
It’s Time to Assume Your TV (and Your Game Console, and Your Smart Bulbs, and Your Smart Thermostat, and Your Smart Speaker, and Anything Else in Your House Connected to the Internet) Is Bugged by Brian at NYMag
"I own a Samsung smart TV, and it is currently connected to my home network. I highly doubt that the CIA has been listening in on me, but the opportunity was there. Here’s the thing: I don’t need a smart TV, and I didn’t when I bought it. I own at least three devices capable of streaming Netflix; I don’t need that functionality baked into the set itself. But I was surfing Amazon and comparing prices, and the TV with web connectivity and apps cost the same as one without, so I went for the model with more features. Given the option, I wouldn’t make that same choice today....
More features does not always mean better, especially when it comes to the internet. You probably need a computer; you probably need a smartphone; you probably don’t need a Brita filter that can ping your router. (Which is not to say that I’m not also a willful idiot: I own a Google Home, which has no documented security flaws, but is an always-on microphone connected to the internet.)"