The funny, the inspiring, the delicious, the inappropriate.
Let them take risks and don’t rush into rescue them. Mind your exaggerations and turn off your own need for self-validation…“4.We let guilt get in the way of leading well …Your child does not have to love you every minute. Your kids will get over the disappointment, but they won’t get over the effects of being spoiled. So tell them «no» or «not now,» and let them fight for what they really value and need . As parents, we tend to give them what they want when rewarding our children, especially with multiple kids. When one does well in something, we feel it’s unfair to praise and reward that one and not the other. This is unrealistic and misses an opportunity to enforce the point to our kids that success is dependent upon our own actions and good deeds. Be careful not to teach them a good grade is rewarded by a trip to the mall. If your relationship is based on material rewards, kids will experience neither intrinsic motivation nor unconditional love.”
…or any mom… “3. “Let’s pretend we’re blowing up a giant balloon. We’ll take a deep breath and blow it up to the count of 5.” If you tell a child to take a deep breath in the middle of a panic attack, chances are you’ll hear, “I CAN’T!” Instead, make it a game. Pretend to blow up a balloon, making funny noises in the process. Taking three deep breaths and blowing them out will actually reverse the stress response in the body and may even get you a few giggles in the process.”
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Love some of these fresh tips from Joanna Goddard…“Go on date nights with friends. Whenever we’re out with other people, I see Alex with fresh eyes. He’ll tell an anecdote with a new twist, or he’ll talk about sports with such authority, or he’ll order everyone a round of drinks. It makes me feel buzzy to look across the table and see him in action, and I’m always so glad I get to take him home with me.”
After surviving four combat tours in Afghanistan including three close calls with death, a veteran back home struggles to stay sober while dealing with severe post-traumatic stress disorder. After appearing before a judge 25 times, the judge sentences him to time in jail and decides to spend the time with the young Sergeant…“A Gulf War veteran himself, Olivera was concerned that leaving Serna in isolation for a night would trigger his PTSD. The two passed the time trading stories of their experiences in the military. Serna told WRAL:“It was more of a father-son conversation. It was personal.”“They have worn the uniform and we know they can be contributing members of society,” Olivera said. “We just want to get them back there.”
How to make lemonade out of lemons...”Nothing says “love” like a close up of a woman literally jamming a wedding ring on her man’s finger.”
When you have a closet full of me instead of mine…“The objects you struggle to get rid of are likely tied to your self-worth, according to a 2011 study in the Journal of Consumer Psychology. Rather than viewing those objects as “mine,” you may think of them as “me. The study found that people struggle the most to part with possessions that lack monetary or functional value. That’s why people who lose their possessions to burglaries or fires report the psychological damage is far worse than the financial loss. According to researchers, the items you hang onto are likely to be linked directly to your self-worth. And people measure their self-worth in different areas. While one person may link their worth to their physical appearance, someone else may think their value stems from other people’s approval. Whatever objects you cling to the most are likely the ones that fuel your self-worth.”
For the die-hard GOT fans…Happy Sunday.
With this year marking the 400th anniversary of Shakespeare’s death, be sure to catch plenty of Shakespeare starting with Will Geer’s Theatricum Botanicum lineup. Also for LA theatre, check out Gruesome Playground Injuries at the Hudson Backstage in Hollywood, “pitch-black” comedy Dinner At Home Between Deaths at the Odyssey and be on the lookout for Eugene O’Neill’s Hairy Ape opening May 14 at the Odyssey and not to be missed, Lee Blessing’s A Walk In The Woods at International City Theatre. Interested in dance? Watch for New York-based Bryn Cohn + Artists Dance Company making their Los Angeles debut May 6 & 7 and Royal Swedish Ballet’s return to Segerstrom Center for the Arts with the West Coast Premiere of Mats Ek’s Juliet and Romeo June 10 -12.